Articles from First Lady Cynthia Jennings that Empower, Equip, and Encourage

P.M.S. (Prayer, Meditation, Self-Control)

“I’m sooo hot! God if you don’t help me I’m going to lose my mind!” I know at first glance it
appears that I’m talking about what all women will experience, perimenopause or menopause. I
know the phrase fits, but what I’m actually talking about is the emotion of frustration that builds
up when we’re working in ministry, at home, work or dealing with our spouse, children and
members of our church. The unexpected, unwanted frustrated feeling that rises to a hot boiling
point of they just don’t understand, or when asked to do one more thing before any other task has
been completed.
As a pastor’s wife I have often said to myself “I’m sooo hot!” As women we have all been at that
point, if not hold on to your lid, you too will have the unexpected, unwanted experience of
saying, “I’m sooo hot.” When I feel myself “getting hot” I immediately stop what I’m doing and
pray. Once I’m at the point of “getting hot,” I have to acknowledge that I have over extended
myself or I mismanaged my time, causing me to become anxious, thus the boiling point of “I’m
sooo hot!”
Philippians 4:6 states, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and
supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.” Prayer refocuses me,
thus putting Jesus at the forefront of my mind so I am able to renew my mind, (Philippians 2:5)
and die to my flesh (2 Corinthians 4:16). Praying allows me to intentionally think and meditate
on his word to calm the “hotness.” My favorite scripture and the one I meditate on often is,
Philippians 4:8-9. It reads, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever
is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence,
if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. What you have learned and
received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with
Dealing with the issue of “I’m sooo hot” is a matter of discipline and self-control. I know you’re
probably thinking the “I’m sooo hot” is warranted. That may be true, but we must remember we
don’t want to be a stumbling block to another sister in Christ or a hindrance to a sister who has
yet to accept Jesus Christ as her Lord and Savior. “All things are lawful for me,” but not all
things are helpful. “All things are lawful for me,” but I will not be dominated by anything. 1
Corinthians 6:12. When I get the unexpected, unwanted feeling of “I’m sooo hot,” the following
three steps are essential to my cooling down process. I pray they will help you as well. 1. Pray:
Ephesians 6:18; 1 Thessalonians 5:17; James 5:16 2. Meditate: Psalm 1:2; Psalm 19:14; Joshua
1:8 3. Use self-control: Proverbs 25:28; Proverbs 29:11; Ephesians 6:12; 1 Peter 4:7

The Feeling of Being Ill Equipped

As Pastor’s Wife I wear many hats, some are familiar hats that I am comfortable wearing thus
making the task easy to complete. Some are brand new hats that don’t fit so well and I am
reluctant to put on, thus causing apprehension and the feeling of being ill equipped concerning
the task.
As a Pastor’s Wife I am expected to be on my P’s & Q’s at all times. I am expected to say and do
the right things, give great Godly advice to the women in our ministry and encourage them
whenever they feel ill equipped for a task. Well, who is there to model and reciprocate those
things for Pastor’s Wives?
I often recall the words my husband said before he stepped into his calling as a founding pastor.
“It’s time.” Those words produced a feeling of fear and being ill equipped that gripped me like
a glove. All I could focus on was the fact that I knew nothing about being a Pastor’s Wife. After
13 years I sometimes get that same feeling.
When this feeling overshadows me and anxiety rises up I quote 2 Timothy 1:7. For God hath not
given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
This scripture helps to release any fear or anxiety that causes the ill equipped feeling. This
scripture also empowers me to accept the task that may cause the ill equipped feeling.
God loves me. I know this because He gave up His only son to die for my sins. Jesus
experienced some very difficult situations for us, but in the midst of going through those difficult
situations his focus was on completing the task that God had given him. With this in mind I am
confident that whatever task is before me I know God loves me and He will give me the strength
to complete the task.
A sound mind is a disciplined mind. With God’s help I can discipline my mind to focus on Him
and meditate on His word. This puts my mind at peace. When my mind is at peace I no longer
view the task from my flesh and inabilities but from the eyes of God, trusting that He will give
me the wisdom and ability to complete the task thus relieving me of the pressure and anxiety of
feeling ill equipped.
As a Pastor’s Wife this ill equipped feeling surfaces more than I would like or want to admit.
When it does I immediately stop trusting in our own abilities and trust in God’s ability.
Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy
ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. (Proverbs 3:5-6)
A new hat has been given to me. So I’m taking a deep breath and I am loudly quoting Proverbs
3:5-6 and 2 Timothy 1:7.

The Blessing of UNGLUEDNESS

As women there are situations or challenges in life that can make us feel or cause us to
become UNGLUED. During a season of UNGLUEDNESS the enemy dominates the mind with
the things you need to do, how to execute getting it all done as well as demeaning and
intimidating words like that’s too hard you won’t be able to do it. When I go into prayer in this
UNGLUED state I oftentimes go before God incognito (or so I think) hoping God doesn’t
recognize me (my heart), meaning I went before God being deceptive about my feelings, having
doubt in my heart and pretending everything is ok. When in a state of UNGLUDNESS I also
pray fashionably before God, fancy empty words just to say I prayed but not being freely and
genuinely transparent before God, (as if God didn’t know my heart and what was really going
on). Unrecognized UNGLUDENSS will lead to shadiness because you don’t want anyone to see
how UNGLUED you are. When you become shady your life becomes dark (spiritually), chaotic
and discombobulated.
But I realized the recognition of being UNGLUED is a blessing, because at that moment
I understood and remembered I am not in control. Regardless of the depth of the
UNGLUEDNESS, when I recognize (that small still voice) I’m UNGLUED I make an
intentional and conscious choice to stop and refocus on God’s Word. Adhering to and trusting
the guidance of the Holy Spirit who gives instruction on how to thrive and have peace in a
season of UNGLUEDNESS with the understanding this may be God’s way of getting my
attention to work out of me what He needs to get out of me for His purpose and glory. I am so
grateful that God allowed me to stop and refocus on His Word to guide me in the mist of
UNGLUDENSS, now the enemy doesn’t have room to dominate in that area if I ever become
UNGLUED again. You too have the power to thrive in a season of UNGLUEDNESS!
Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be
troubled, neither let it be afraid. John 14:27 (KJV)
For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints. 1 Corinthians 14:33 (KJV)