It's Not About You!
by Cynthia Jennings | April 24, 2019It’s Not About You!!!
There have been times in my life as a Believer that I mumbled and oftentimes shouted “why me!” I have cried about certain situations/challenges in my life that I felt were unfair and I have cried about situations/challenges in my life that caused me physical and emotional pain. Don’t get me wrong. The unfairness and pain were real. But one day as I was crying whyyyyy me, I felt a presence overshadow me. I didn’t acknowledge the presence because I wanted to waddle in the why me. In my mind and at times out loud I would rattle off all the things I felt I should not have had to deal with. At one point I was naive or should I say blind to think that once you are saved all your problems should just disappear. God is all seeing and all knowing right? (Psalm 139) “So, God if you can see what I am going through why don’t you just take it away?” Yeah… I know you are probably cringing right now thinking did she actually say that. Or are you cringing because this is where you are in your life?
Oh... back to the presence that overshadowed me. The next time it happened I was a bit more curious. As I was still waddling in why me. I continually heard, “it’s not about you.” I’m looking around, although I knew I was home alone. I got up from my waddle. I began to replay in my mind (for many months) while in the midst of different challenges, “it’s not about me.” I must admit the waddling didn’t immediately go away. Over time it began to diminish with a lot of internal work on my behalf thorough prayer and reading the Bible. In some cases, the situations/challenges that caused the unfairness and pain were still very present. However, through God’s Word I began to learn that whatever challenge I was (am) experiencing is not for me. At first that was a hard pill to swallow. And I wasn’t convinced. Let’s be real, no one wants to experience anything that is uncomfortable let alone painful, regardless of the reason. But because God is such an awesome God, He gave me a real time scenario. I was freshly experiencing something I felt no one else or very few women were experiencing (once again I was all into me). On two separate occasion two different women asked me the same question. The question lead to a conversation that specifically dealt with what I was currently experiencing. About a week or so later for one of the women and about a month later for the other woman our next conversation they both were in tears. As I listened to each of the women, I had a puzzled look on my face. I heard what they were saying but I could not wrap my mind around it. They both said “you are such an inspiration to me. Just listening to you has given me the confidence and courage I need.” Dumbfounded, but internally I was in tears. Then I began to hear “it’s not about you.” This is just one experience of many where God has shown me the challenges I endure are not about me.
Needless to say. I have become very conscious in my awareness of negativity surrounding challenges that produce unfairness, pain or uncomfortableness. I don’t always hit the mark. But I’m reeled in quickly with the understanding and proof that it’s not about me.
PearltoPonder: Challenges will come. Take your eyes off self and focus on the woman who will be blessed from your challenge.
Luke 22:42 Saying, Father, if thou be willing, remove this cup from me: nevertheless not my will, but thine, be done.