It's Not About You!

It’s Not About You!!!
There have been times in my life as a Believer that I mumbled and oftentimes shouted “why me!” I have cried about certain situations/challenges in my life that I felt were unfair and I have cried about situations/challenges in my life that caused me physical and emotional pain. Don’t get me wrong. The unfairness and pain were real. But one day as I was crying whyyyyy me, I felt a presence overshadow me.  I didn’t acknowledge the presence because I wanted to waddle in the why me. In my mind and at times out loud I would rattle off all the things I felt I should not have had to deal with. At one point I was naive or should I say blind to think that once you are saved all your problems should just disappear. God is all seeing and all knowing right? (Psalm 139) “So, God if you can see what I am going through why don’t you just take it away?” Yeah… I know you are probably cringing right now thinking did she actually say that. Or are you cringing because this is where you are in your life?

Oh... back to the presence that overshadowed me. The next time it happened I was a bit more curious.  As I was still waddling in why me. I continually heard, “it’s not about you.” I’m looking around, although I knew I was home alone. I got up from my waddle. I began to replay in my mind (for many months) while in the midst of different challenges, “it’s not about me.” I must admit the waddling didn’t immediately go away. Over time it began to diminish with a lot of internal work on my behalf thorough prayer and reading the Bible. In some cases, the situations/challenges that caused the unfairness and pain were still very present. However, through God’s Word I began to learn that whatever challenge I was (am) experiencing is not for me. At first that was a hard pill to swallow. And I wasn’t convinced. Let’s be real, no one wants to experience anything that is uncomfortable let alone painful, regardless of the reason. But because God is such an awesome God, He gave me a real time scenario. I was freshly experiencing something I felt no one else or very few women were experiencing (once again I was all into me). On two separate occasion two different women asked me the same question. The question lead to a conversation that specifically dealt with what I was currently experiencing. About a week or so later for one of the women and about a month later for the other woman our next conversation they both were in tears. As I listened to each of the women, I had a puzzled look on my face. I heard what they were saying but I could not wrap my mind around it. They both said “you are such an inspiration to me. Just listening to you has given me the confidence and courage I need.” Dumbfounded, but internally I was in tears. Then I began to hear “it’s not about you.” This is just one experience of many where God has shown me the challenges I endure are not about me.

Needless to say. I have become very conscious in my awareness of negativity surrounding challenges that produce unfairness, pain or uncomfortableness.  I don’t always hit the mark. But I’m reeled in quickly with the understanding and proof that it’s not about me.
PearltoPonder: Challenges will come. Take your eyes off self and focus on the woman who will be blessed from your challenge.
Luke 22:42 Saying, Father, if thou be willing, remove this cup from me: nevertheless not my will, but thine, be done.


Posted by ARLETTA UNDERWOOD on April 28, 2019
Wow this was extremely powerful!! I'm dealing with that samething and had that same thing happen. As you know I have several medical challenges and I receive disability. I was speaking to a lady that told me I was a inspiration to her and I was perplexed. I didn't see how my situation could be inspiring. I understand now!! Thank you my friend first lady for this particular blog!!!
Posted by Lillie Miller on April 25, 2019
It is so important to step out of our selves and realize it is not about us... we far to often look at self and selfish thoughts and need to yield to the bigger picture and beyond that thing that is what we consider the issue.
Posted by Cheryl Hill on April 25, 2019
I am really enjoying and getting a lot from your blog thank you for being you God bless
Posted by ELLA BROWN on April 25, 2019
Very powerful word, thank you for taking the time to pour into other women we need your wisdom to help us make it through our struggles, again Thank you First Lady.
Posted by Sandra Hardeman on April 24, 2019
Sis. Jennings, you seem to always know just what to say to make me think and feel a lot better about me. Thank you so very much. I have a hard time letting go. But I know I'll get there.
Posted by Kenya Walker on April 24, 2019
BUT GOD! It still amazes me how God speaks to me through you and this blog. I have asked myself "why me" a million times over the past 3 years. I felt like I was being punished for something I've done in my past, convinced that was where the punishment was stemming from. Some times we get so stuck on what we have convinced ourselves the problem is coming from that we forget what God has told us. He told us He does not remember our transgressions after repentance, (Jeramiah 31:34 Psalms 103:12)but some how I forget that all the time. And there are always those moments the thoughts of punishment creeps in. Thank you for reminding me that it is not about me!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Posted by anonymous on April 24, 2019
You know to much is given much is required. If we never knew unfairness and sorrow we would never walk in the level of compassion and grace God bestows on our lives. It is so easy to be distracted by the cares of life. Romans 8:28 for sure.
Posted by sylvia shelby on April 24, 2019
on point 1st lady!
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