You Still Angry About It?

by Cynthia Jennings on June 8, 2022

I was really upset. I don’t need to tell you the details because I want you to fill in the blanks yourself. I was really mad at _______ for ________. I’m not worried about you not having anything to put in those blanks because you’re human. We’ve all been really irked at someone for hurting our feelings, hampering our plans or a whole lot worse. 

Esau knew something about being angry.

Esau’s younger brother, Jacob stole his birthright and his inheritance….talk about hurt feelings and anger.

But let’s look back at the story from Esau’s point of view because sometimes we have to look backward in order to move forward. All those years ago, Esau was devastated to learn that Jacob had tricked their father into giving him the birthright and the blessing. Picture the scene:

38 Esau said to his father, “Have you but one blessing, my father? Bless me, even me also, O my father.” And Esau lifted up his voice and wept.

39 Then Isaac his father answered and said to him: “Behold, away from the fatness of the earth shall your dwelling be, and away from the dew of heaven on high.40 By your sword you shall live,  and you shall serve your brother; but when you grow restless you shall break his yoke from your neck”(Genesis 27:38-40 ESV Emphasis added).

We don’t know much about what happened with Esau between the time his brother fled to Haran and the time Jacob returned home to Bethel. One thing we know is that Esau didn’t like his story. But something happened to Esau’s heart over those twenty years. He went from vowing to kill his brother to embracing him when he returned (Genesis 32-33).

At some point Esau made a decision.

Remember Isaac’s words to Esau: “but when you grow restless you shall break his yoke from your neck” (Genesis 27:40 ESV). AMPC translation reads, “But [the time shall come] when you will grow restive and break loose, and you shall tear his yoke from off your neck” (Genesis 27:40).

The Hebrew word translated “break loose go” is paraq, which also means to tear apart or away, deliver or rescue. When do we break loose from the yoke of unforgiveness that wraps around our necks and weighs on our shoulders? When we get restless and decide to break free. That’s when our stories will take a new direction.

The enemy does not want you to break free from the weight of the past. The enemy wants you to wear that yoke of bitterness, resentment and anger for the rest of your life. His goal is to keep you polishing those yokes with a fresh coat of remembrance to keep you restless.

The Apostle Paul wrote,” Anyone whom you forgive, I also forgive. Indeed, what I have forgiven, if I have forgiven anything, has been for your sake in the presence of Christ, 11 so that we would not be outwitted by Satan; for we are not ignorant of his designs(2 Corinthians 2:10-11 ESV). And what are these designs {schemes}? To keep you stuck in a bad story of unforgiveness. What is God’s ultimate best?  To set you free from the burden of bitterness, resentment and anger so you can write a new ending to your story.

It was Esau’s decision to forgive that set both brothers free from the hate place. Esau was free, and he set Jacob free as well. At the time of Jacob’s betrayal, I’m sure Esau thought he could never forgive the offense. But grace takes what is impossible with man and makes it possible with God. That’s a new ending to your story.

So, for you and for me, it’s time to decide. Will we let go of the anger or hang on to the offense? Will we stay mad or seek peace? Will we shine that yoke clamped around our necks or sever the clasp with the cutters of grace and break free?

Prayer: Heavenly Father, I’m laying my feelings at your feet. ________ hurt my feelings and I have been holding a grudge for long enough. Today, I’m making a decision to set myself free from the yoke of bitterness, resentment and anger. I’ve read scripture that warns me of the danger of holding on to grudges and anger. Father, with the help of the Holy Spirit and strength through Jesus Christ, I’m deciding right now, today, to let go of any offense. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

PEARLStoPONDER: Anger in itself is not a bad thing. There are times to get angry. Jesus did (Matthew 21:12-13 ESV). God does too. However, it’s what we do with it that is concerning. We basically have two choices. We can let it take control of our hearts and lead us into captivity, or we can find freedom through forgiveness. Which will you decide?

Mark 11:25-- And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.”

Ephesians 4:26-27—Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, 27 and give no opportunity to the devil.

Ephesians 4:31-- Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.


Posted by Arlesha on June 08, 2022
Thank you for this one. I struggle with forgiveness. It takes me a long time to get over things when I'm hurt and I build up walls to protect myself when I should rely on God to be my protector. I truly enjoyed reading this.
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